Myth: That since I miscarried once, I am more likely to miscarry again and that everyone should act really cautious and nervous about being excited that I am pregnant again.
Reality: While I am a little bit nervous (because I know what it feels like to miscarry), I am trying to be positive about my chances. Having just one miscarriage doesn't make you more likely to have them again, in fact most doctors don't have a lot of concern until you've had 3, 4 or more. Statistically, about 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. I feel I've done my part by having one already & I don't need to have any more.
Myth: It took me a year to conceive Dexter.
Reality: After going off the pill at the end of October 2007, I had a postive pregnancy test on Dec 14, 2007. Within 10 days I knew I was miscarrying, though it took about 6 weeks before I stopped getting positive reads on preg tests. At that point, Tyler labelled me a bit "crazy" so I decided to let things happen on their own if they were going to and focus on other things such as my home businesses. Tyler was working away in Fort Saskatchewan, sometimes as much as 2-3 weeks at a time...and we didn't always "connect" when he got home. Around October or November I decided to embrace my inner Type A personality and plan away. I got on www.fertilitygal.com and started charting my cycle and then seducing Tyler whenever it said I had fertile days. Judging from my dates, Dexter was conceived on December 26th. So, with this information, you can decide Dexter took 10 months or 2 months depending on your terms of measurement.
This time around, I went off my pill at the end of March. I had a bit of a weird cycle:
-March 29-31, a very short period.
-April 19-24, an early period.
-May 16th...assumed intended period based on normal 4 week cycle from last period.
-May 17th - first positive preg test.
So as of right now, I'm going with April 19 being my first day of my last period, but I guess I could get a surprise, though if I use our possible conception times, it makes the most sense.
Anyway, the reason I wrote this blog, is that some of the reactions I've been getting as I share my news, is like "oh i'm surprised it was this quick when it took so long with Dexter", and "are you worried you're going to miscarry" which kind of annoyed me. I guess, its not that they aren't legitimate, (and don't be offended if you asked them), but they make me feel like I am less of a woman in some of these people's eyes. That I'm not up to par...thoughts?
had written a big reply and again blogspot wouldn't let me post it. I guess from now on i'm going to post as 'anonymous'. More or less I said that:
ReplyDelete1. michael really was shocked by tyler's response to this pregnancy when i told him about it - thought that was really rude
2. It makes me shudder to think of the insensative things I have said to people over the years before I went through the experience of marriage and children - hopefully they've forgiven me!
3. i'm very excited about yoru pregnancy!!